Why, Yes, I am Overprotective!

I actually don’t think I’m overprotective, I think most parents aren’t protective enough. Yeah, I said it. ;)

I’ve been doing a lot of praying and reading and more praying lately and I really feel that it’s just not ok for my kids to be exposed to lots of things that other kids their ages are being exposed to.

I know some will think I’ve gone batty but I honestly don’t care. :) Take for instance books. R1 read the first Diary of a Wimpy Kid book and really liked it and I was so happy that he finally wanted to read that I didn’t really think much of it. Of course, he wanted to read the whole series so I told him we’d look for them. Well, we could only find #4 and I bought it so we’d have it when he got to it, and told him we’d keep looking for the others. Then I sat down and read #4 and there’s just no way I’m going to let him continue these books.

I can see how most would think they are harmless but after reading it I was really annoyed that someone would write something like that for my child to read. The boy in these books is crude and disrespectful and it definitely would introduce ideas to my son that he’s not familiar with yet and I DO think it’s my job to protect him.

While I don’t think everything he reads needs to be about God, I DO think they need to be worthwhile in some way. He’s so smart and growing so fast that I see no reason to let him fill his head with drivel.

So from here on out I’ll be much more involved when he chooses a book to read.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Phil. 4:8

Hmm.

I read my friend Jodie’s blog post this morning and she inspired me. She’s so right when she says:

Mopping the floor or cleaning the toilet or wiping a 3 year olds butt is not work. Its life. Its not optional(though some can pay others to clean house and that’s cool too, if you can swing it.). I chose this life, this life of being with children, this life of keeping our home clean and comfortable. This life of leisure. So all this to say its all how you look at it. Since realizing I had it good, I am much more appreciative of my situation in life and much more appreciative of Pirate who makes it all possible.

And of course you’re thinking, “DUH, Christi!” rofl But I’m shocked at how often I find myself resisting this life that I CHOSE. This life that God gifted me with. This life that is so amazing and wonderful.

I really have it good. I mean, on my worst days I’m stuck sitting holding three cranky/sick/whatever kids and really, how bad is that? How selfish of me to think it sucks when there are people out there who can’t hold their sick children or have no children at all? Wow. Epiphany, much?

And that leads me to my next thought – if these children are a gift from God, why don’t we treat them that way? They are little PEOPLE. WHY would anyone think that God wants us to hit/shame/punish them? He loves them. I can’t imagine how His heart must break when he sees us yell at His gifts.

Another blog that touched me this morning:

No one walks away from punishment feeling encouraged, unconditionally loved, or emotionally prepared to face the next stressful moment.

And isn’t that what God wants for us? To feel encouraged, unconditionally loved and emotionally prepared?

Just because “our parents spanked us and we turned out ok” does not mean it’s OK or right or effective. Our children will treat others the way we treat them. Spanking a child just teaches them that the person with the most power can hit. Not what I want my children to learn.

So as I start this week I’m working to change my heart and my attitude towards my blessings, my life. I am a wife and a mother and I am proud to be both. I have a good life, a wonderful life, actually.

Maybe it would help if we could focus more on being role models instead of being instruments of correction or punishment.

Today I start living like it.