#4

My BBF’s son had a minor/quick tummy bug at the beginning of the week. Then they came to play and the next day her other son woke up sick… so when I woke up with nausea I thought nothing of it. Until the next day when I still had it and realized that it went away when I ate something or burped… and then I realized those are my pregnancy symptoms… so I tested.

#4 will be here the beginning of February!!

My son has a life-threatening peanut allergy. It will KILL him. He is by no means a minority.

Peanut allergy is one of the “Big 8″ food allergies that account for 90% of those suffered by 21 million Americans. (AAAAI and FAAN)

More than 3 million people in the United States report being allergic to peanuts, tree nuts or both. (AAAAI)

Approximately 1% of the U.S. population has a peanut allergy (Sicherer, SH, “Prevalence of peanut and tree nut allergy in the US…”)

Less than 21% of patients with peanut allergy will outgrow it. (AAAAI)

Peanut Allergy is the most common cause of food related death (AAFA).

Four out of every 100 children have a food allergy. (CDC/NCHS Study, “Food Allergy Among U.S. Children…”)

From 1997 to 2007, the prevalence of reported food allergy increased 18% among children under age 18 years. (CDC/NCHS Study, “Food Allergy Among U.S. Children…”)

From 2004 to 2006, there were an average of 9,537 hospital discharges per year with a diagnosis related to food allergy among children 0 to 17 years. (CDC/NCHS Study, “Food Allergy Among U.S. Children…”)

http://www.peanutallergy.com/statistics-and-facts.html#

So the other day another mom pretty much told me that her kid should be able to eat peanut butter at school, regardless of the risk to my kid or any other Peanut Allergic (PA) kid. My argument is that a child has a right to safely go to school but hers doesn’t have a right to PB&J.

And then it occurred to me that every other disability that a kid could have (autism, down syndrome, etc) has an image floating around FB and the ‘net that puts a FACE to that disability. So why not food allergies?

Because when you get to the heart of the matter these are CHILDREN we are talking about – not some hypothetical person. So I made this:

That’s my son. Look at him. Now do you think your kid should have PB&J even if it could kill my son? I know it might sound dramatic but this is our truth. Our every day reality. Our “have to hurry up and leave the park because a mom showed up and let her toddler with peanut-butter-covered hands loose on the playground.” THOSE instances are hard enough, why should a child have to deal with it at school when it can SO easily be avoided? (And FTR EVERY exposure increases the severity of the allergy.)

Now, I know you’re thinking “but your kid doesn’t go to school.” No, he doesn’t, we homeschool. And the reasons we HS have changed over the years but the very first reason was that our son could die there. In fact, at the school he would go to, children have been life-flighted after being exposed to peanuts when it was known that they had an allergy. AND not all parents with PA kids can HS them. And EVEN IF THEY COULD they shouldn’t have to.

It’s hard enough living with this allergy – I think as human beings we should be more than willing to do whatever we can to ease that burden on each other.

It Seems We’ve Done SOMETHING Right

On the way to a friend’s house today we heard a blurb on the Christian station about MLK Jr. and R1 asked me who he was. I was totally honest and told him that I knew he was a great man and did some really important things for the civil rights movement but that I didn’t really know much about him and that I planned to remedy that. He said he’d like to research it with me.

I did a quick google and read a bit about him in the parking lot and we talked a bit about it as the 4 of us headed into Publix. When I said the words, “black people” and “white people” while trying my best to explain what the civil rights movement was my sweet R2 looked at me and said, “What are black and white people?”

My heart soared. To her, there is no such thing, it’s absolutely absurd because everyone is different, no one is the exact same shade as anyone else and we are all the same – God’s children. I asked her what color her skin is and she said, “brown.” R1 argued that albino people are truly white and I had to concede, LOL, but we talked about how even they have different shades.

The idea that any one “color” of person would hate another “color” JUST BECAUSE OF THEIR “COLOR” was (and I quote my son here) “STUPID.” I wholeheartedly agreed and told him so.

I fail a lot at this parenting thing. I’m not as educated or witty as some but it seems as though I just might have done this one thing right. Mr. Fox and I both grew up with a lot of racial junk being demonstrated and are so thankful that God has cleared our hearts and minds of it and allowed us to model LOVE for people to our children.

Publix 6/1

The items in bold are the ones I am buying coupons for.

Aunt Jemima Pancakes 12.5 to 14.8 oz, BOGO $2.69
-$1/2 Aunt Jemima Frozen products printable coupon

Hebrew National All Beef Franks, 11 or 12 oz, BOGO $4.99

Taco Bell Home Originals Dinners 10.75 to 16.35 oz, BOGO $2.69
-$1/2 Taco Bell Home Originals Products, any – 05-01-11 SS Insert (exp 6/1/2011)

General Mills Cheerios 10 to 14 oz or Frosted 17.2 oz, BOGO $4.09
-$1/2 General Mills Cereal 5/8/2011 SS Insert (exp 6/18/2011)

Hormel Premium Canned Chicken Breast, BOGO $3.39

Barilla Pasta Sauce, 24 oz, BOGO $2.59
-$1/2 Barilla Pasta AND Sauce 5/1/2011 SS Insert (exp 6/26/2011)
-$0.75/2 Barilla Pasta Sauce tearpad (exp 12/31/2011)

Quaker Instant Grits 12 pk, BOGO $2.75

Ronzoni Healthy Harvest or Garden Delights Pasta, 12 of 13.25 oz, BOGO $1.89
-$1/2 Ronzoni Healthy Harvest Rolling

Blue Diamond Almond Breeze half gallon, 2/$6
$1/1
Price: $2

Lance Toasty Crackers 6 to 14 oz, 2/$4

It’s Monday

I realized at a conference at church a few weeks ago a LOT of things that I hadn’t before. God really used the speakers words to touch me, to reveal things to me. Hurts, holes. Things that He wants to heal in me.

I’ve been putting off sitting down and going back through my notes from that weekend to pray and meditate on what He revealed to me. In some ways it’s easier not to heal. Healing hurts. You have to reopen the wound to give it to God and that’s never comfortable.

But I’ll do it. Because I do need His healing, His love. And I want Him to fill every hole in my soul.

I’m late to the game but am jumping in anyway.

1. His grace.
2. silly girls
3. a sweet son who loves his sisters
4. my sister who really, really knows me and loves me anyway
5. sunshine after months of snow and cold and grey
6. a hard-working husband who loves us

I Want to Stop Time

My kids are getting so big and I don’t like it one bit. I don’t want more babies I just want the ones I have to stay right where they are. I measured the two bigs today.

R1 is 52 inches and 80 lbs. He will be 8 in March.

R2 is 41.5 inches and 40 lbs. She just turned 4 in August.

R3 is 34.5 inches and 26lbs. She turned 2 in June.